It’s All About Forgiveness



I bet you all thought that I’d given up on my blog. I apologize for taking such a long hiatus, but I am back and more inspired and motivated than ever! Those who know me know that 2017 was one hell of a year for me. I had my heart broken, lost my job, and took a leap of faith and came back to Oregon with nothing guaranteed. Yet somehow things have worked out. I don’t regret anything that I’ve been through, I believe that everything happens for a reason and I believe that I am exactly where I need to be.

That being said, I felt inspired to write about forgiveness and letting go of the past. I was listening to my weekly Spotify playlist the other day and India Arie’s cover of Don Henley’s The Heart of the Matter came on and really spoke to me. I thought about everything that I’ve been through in the past year.  All of the heartache, all of the disappointments, and all of the uncertainty. I thought about all of the moments in the past year where I felt, lonely, sad, angry and just very whoa is me. Sometimes life just sucks and you feel like you have no control. However, I realized that I don’t HAVE to feel that way and that I may not have control over everything that happens in my life, I DO have control over myself, how I react, and what I accept.

The part of the song that really spoke to me was:

There are people in your life
Who’ve come and gone
They let you down
You know they hurt your pride
You better put it all behind you baby
‘Cause life goes on
You keep carryin’ that anger
It’ll eat you up inside baby

I’ve been trying to get down
To the heart of the matter
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it’s about forgiveness

It’s important to be able to let go and forgive when you’ve been wronged or when life just simply doesn’t go your way. In my experience, it only made things harder and I felt even more lonely and disappointed. Forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing someone an opportunity to hurt you again or even allowing them back in your life. It just means accepting what is, allowing yourself to learn from your experiences, and allowing yourself to be loved the way that you deserve to be.

Don’t deny your bad feelings, but at the same time, don’t let them consume you. Having the strength and motivation to forgive people and life circumstances provides you so much more power and freedom. Take control of your life and don’t allow anyone or anything to break you down or allow you to feel like you don’t deserve to be happy and to feel loved.

If there is anything that I have learned in the past year it’s that people only have as much power over you as what you allow them to have. Once again, I believe that everything happens for a reason and I am a much stronger person for it. I only allow what is good and uplifting for me, I don’t expend energy on people who don’t value me, and I surround myself with people and things that inspire me to be a happier, healthier, and stronger person. I got down to the heart of the matter and realized that it is all about forgiveness.





10 Songs to Remind You “Everything Will Be OK”

Once again I was contemplating life and happened upon an enlightening music playlist on Pinterest. I took it upon myself to listen to some of this music and felt really motivated to start a new chapter of my life.

We all have rough days or dark periods in our life and sometimes it seems impossible to see the light and move forward. Sometimes all you need is the right music to feel inspired. Well, here are 10 songs that will motivate you to move forward and remind you that all is well.

  1. Here Comes the Sun, The Beatles
  2. Somewhere Over the Rainbow, Ukulele Boys
  3. Everything Is Alright, Motion City Soundtrack
  4. Middle, Jimmy Eat World
  5. A Better Place, A Better Time, Streetlight Manifesto
  6. It’s Gonna Be (Alright), Ween
  7. It Gets Better, Fun
  8. Tomorrow Is Gonna Be Better, Joshua Radin
  9. A Change Is Gonna Come, Sam Cook
  10. Don’ Worry, Be Happy, Bob McFerrin


Music and Grieving

Life is a funny thing. It can be filled with the darkest of times and yet still be filled with great moments that allow you to carry yourself through the darkness that had been cast upon you.

This morning I took a morning walk to clear my head and of course had my music. I chose a playlist that Spotify had picked out for me just for kicks. Most of the music seemed to have a chill summertime vibe. I began thinking about where I am in my life right now and all of the changes taking place, but then a song played that wasn’t quite as light and summer timey. This song was Homeward Bound by Simon and Garfunkel.

For some reason I associate this song with my cousin Marcus who committed suicide last August. I started to think about everything that I’ve been through this year in regards to that and couldn’t help but think about how much I miss him. It really hit me hard. Although life has gotten better and a lot of good things have happened since and our family is doing considerably well, there are moments where it surfaces. The grieving process is an ongoing process that you learn to adapt to.

On a more enlightening note, the next song that played and really spoke to me was another Paul Simon song, Father and Daughter. This is the part of the song that really spoke to me:

I believe the light that shines on you
Will shine on you forever
And though I can’t guarantee there’s nothing scary
Hidin’ under your bed
I’m gonna
Stand guard
Like the postcard
Of the golden retriever
And never leave
‘Til I leave you
With a sweet dream in your head
I’m gonna watch you shine
Gonna watch you grow
Gonna paint a sign
So you always know
As long as one and one is two
Ooh ooh
There could never be a father
Love his daughter more than I love you


As I was listening to this song I couldn’t help but get emotional because I knew that Dad had been with me and guiding me through everything. I am a firm believer that when we lose loved ones they become our guardian angels and are always with us when we need help and guidance.

I Left My Heart In Oregon


If you’ve read any of my previous blog posts, then you know that a lot of my answers and inspiration come through different songs. It happens to me every so often, and when it does I get the urge to share my experience. Well my most recent experience has to do with my love for Oregon and how much I’ve missed it since I’ve been here in the great and proud state of Texas.
Most of you know that I moved out here to Texas to help my aunt, the marvelous artist and publisher, Irene Titera, with our Inbox Magazine called Life Is Delightable. Don’t worry, it’s coming SOON! Anyway this week has been pretty crazy to say the least.

I took a week long trip to Oregon and got back 2 days ago. While I was there I couldn’t help but think how tempting it was to just stay there and miss my flight. I didn’t even care about the current job that I had waiting for me back in Texas. I just felt so at home and didn’t want to leave. Well what was supposed to be my next day back at work after returning from Oregon, I was informed that I no longer had a job, for some pretty peculiar reasons. The reasons for terminating me didn’t make any sense. However I realized that I already had one foot out the door since I was planning to move back to Oregon in September. A good friend of mine had urged me to move back sooner, which I hadn’t planned on doing before this incident. I was surprising relieved that I no longer had a job here in Texas holding me back. It was in that moment that I realized my moving time line had been bumped up.

As I’ve been thinking about everything that’s been happening, I was reminded of a moment about 5 months ago when I was having a bad day and driving home.  I was thinking about how much I missed Oregon and how much I wished that I could go back. Just as this thought entered my mind a song came on randomly on a Spotify playlist. And that song was called Coming Home (Oregon) by Matt Kearney. Of course the words that rang the loudest in my ears were “I left my heart in Oregon.”

Coincidence? Well I don’t believe in coincidences. Maybe Dad was trying to tell me something. Only time will tell. I remember thinking “I hope that I will eventually find myself back in Oregon.” Looks like my time to go back has come.

Watch the video for Coming Home (Oregon) here 🙂

A Musical Message of Empowerment


As you may have figured out by now, I am always getting inspiration and spiritual answers through listening to music. Well last night I was on my plane to Portland and just listening to music to keep myself entertained. I chose a 90’s playlist just for fun. I was just kicking back to all of these old school hits, but then You Gotta Be by Des’ree came on and the message really caught my attention. I’d consider myself a pretty strong independent woman, but I do have my moments of weakness when it is hard to be strong.

A lot has changed for me in the past month and it’s been tough, so this song spoke to me on a deep level.  The opening lyrics especially:

Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears

People will hurt you and disappoint you and life is just overall not ever what you expect it to be, but if you can have faith and stand strong in the midst of everything, things will get better. This is what I’ve learned and I was amazed at how paralleled the first few lyrics were to my life,  but then I heard the chorus:

You gotta be,
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger

You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day

Not that I was letting myself fall apart, but I felt so much more empowered after listening to this song. I knew that I needed to be calm, cool, and tough and trust that “love would save the day.” Sometimes it’s hard trusting that everything happens for a reason, especially when that reason is unknown. And sometimes when you’ve been hurt it’s easy to fall apart or become bitter, but that won’t help or benefit you in any way.

I’m actually grateful for the challenges that I’ve experienced. Every challenge prepares you for something to come and I wouldn’t be the strong and capable person that I am today without any the experiences that I’ve had. Answers reveal themselves overtime and sometimes we just need to patiently wait for them to unfold, while still moving forward.

As Des’ree phrased it “try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time.”

You can watch the music video here 🙂




Best Friends and Theme Songs


We already know that music is an incredible thing, but what about the way it ties us to the people that we care about? We all have that one song or multiple songs that remind us or connect us to those important people in our lives. For me the song that comes to mind is Stand By You, by Rachel Platten. Shout out to my best friend Glenice on her birthday! This is our song!


About 2 years ago Glenice came into my life and helped me through the grieving process with my dad and I in turn tried to help her with things that she was going through. Long story short we were there for each other and motivated each other to be happy when it was hard. Stand By You became our theme song. The melody is fun and uplifting and the words are motivating and inspiring. Basically expressed how we felt. So happy birthday Glenice! 🙂 🙂
Watch the music video here. 🙂

Stand By You

Hands, put your empty hands in mine

And scars, show me all the scars you hide

And hey, if your wings are broken

Please take mine so yours can open too

‘Cause I’m gonna stand by you

Oh, tears make kaleidoscopes in your eyes

And hurt, I know you’re hurting, but so am I

And love, if your wings are broken

Borrow mine so yours can open too

‘Cause I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we’re breaking down, we can find a way to break through

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

Yeah, you’re all I never knew I needed

And the heart, sometimes it’s unclear why it’s beating

And love, if your wings are broken

We can brave through those emotions too

‘Cause I’m gonna stand by you

Oh, truth, I guess truth is what you believe in

And faith, I think faith is helping to reason

No, no, no, love, if your wings are broken

Borrow mine so yours can open too

‘Cause I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we’re breaking down, we can find a way to break through

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

I’ll be your eyes when yours can’t shine

I’ll be your arms, I’ll be your steady satellite

And when you can’t rise, well, I’ll cry with you on hands and knees

‘Cause I

(I’m gonna stand by you)

Even if we’re breaking down, we can find a way to break through (come on)

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’m gonna stand by you

Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you

Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you

Love, you’re not alone

No, I’m gonna stand by you

(Even if we can’t find heaven, heaven, heaven)

I’m gonna stand by you

Music is a Time Machine


Have you ever been listening to a song and it transported you back to a moment in time? It happens to me a lot, but specifically today. I was listening to Africa by Toto on the way to work today and suddenly it was September of 2014 and I was sitting in a sushi restaurant with an old friend, with this song playing in the background.

I remembered everything so vividly that I actually felt like I had traveled back in time and was reliving that very moment. I even remembered our conversation about this song verbatim and felt like we were having it again. I had my own personal Flux Capacitor! It never ceases to amaze me the profound impact that music can have. It can even be a time machine! How crazy is that?

As I was in this moment and reminiscing I couldn’t help but think what a fabulous period of time this was. My dad was still alive and had just helped me move into my apartment after making the move to Oregon. Moving to Oregon was a great experience in and of itself, but I remembered how simple my life was back then compared it to what I know now. Not that my life isn’t great (because it is), but everything that I’ve experienced since then has made me appreciate the simple and easy times so much more. I had no idea what was ahead of me and the obstacles that I would have to overcome.

How cool would it be to actually be able to go back in time and relive experiences? I feel incredibly lucky to be able to be reminded of those moments through music that’s linked to a specific time. Music is a powerful thing, no matter what it is. It has the power to help you feel, connect, and remember.

So if you ever want to travel back in time, just pick a song that is tied to a special moment, and let yourself get carried away in the music.